That Makes Sense to Me …

That Makes Sense to Me …

It’s the second-best thing you can say to your partner (or child) after “I love you.” Perhaps even the first.Because “I love you” is a broad, vague message. It can mean all sorts of things, such as, I love the way you make me feel. I love what you do for me. I love...
Emotional Regulation

Emotional Regulation

One of the three necessities for a healthy relationship is emotional regulation. When one is being triggered into an escalated state of fight, flight, freeze or fix, one is not capable of being relational. In fact, when one’s amygdala has taken over due to a...
The Sick Bus

The Sick Bus

One of the many reasons I love doing couples therapy is that I get to meet many “therapy virgins.” Folks that have never darkened the door of a therapist’s office because they never knew they needed to. And here they come. Begrudgingly, of course. Being dragged by a...