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That Makes Sense to Me …

That Makes Sense to Me …

It’s the second-best thing you can say to your partner (or child) after “I love you.” Perhaps even the first.Because “I love you” is a broad, vague message. It can mean all sorts of things, such as, I love the way you make me feel. I love what you do for me. I love...

14 Signs That You Are Emotionally Growing

14 Signs That You Are Emotionally Growing

You are self-reflective. You recognize yourself as a whole being and work toward a deeper self-awareness. You are growth-oriented. You know that you are always a work in progress. You can appreciate where you are while wanting to keep learning and becoming the best...

Promotion or Prevention?

Promotion or Prevention?

Are you promotion focused or prevention focused? Promotion focused refers to seeing a carrot, desiring it, and going after it.  We recognize our need for nurturance and care. We admit our hunger as a human being. We lean in and intentionally execute by...

Emotional Regulation

Emotional Regulation

One of the three necessities for a healthy relationship is emotional regulation. When one is being triggered into an escalated state of fight, flight, freeze or fix, one is not capable of being relational. In fact, when one’s amygdala has taken over due to a...

The Sick Bus

The Sick Bus

One of the many reasons I love doing couples therapy is that I get to meet many “therapy virgins.” Folks that have never darkened the door of a therapist’s office because they never knew they needed to. And here they come. Begrudgingly, of course. Being dragged by a...

Extending Beyond Okay

Extending Beyond Okay

“You doing okay?” How many times do we hear that? How many times do we ask that? The only time that question is appropriate is in the service industry. Your wait staff at your favorite restaurant can ask that. The flight attendant on a long flight (no longer a...

Me Too!

Me Too!

“Me too!” my curly-haired daughter and I yelled in unison while reading the silly cardboard book we picked up at the elementary school book sale. It was too fun not to scream it loudly. Besides, we wanted to make her brother laugh across the hall. It was our nightly...

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