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Size Matters

Size Matters

In teaching emotional skills, whether it be tactical, emotional, or experiential, I must confess I can be overzealous. I’m so focused on either working someone’s relational muscle or getting excited when I witness progress, that I often forget to mention...

Eating What is Served

Eating What is Served

“I’ll have the left side of the menu,” my husband, the foodie, often says jokingly to the wait staff when he sniffs that we’ve sat down at a fine dining establishment.  And then, of course, we must rank the food. “Five stars” is a rarity, given the...

That Makes Sense to Me …

That Makes Sense to Me …

It’s the second-best thing you can say to your partner (or child) after “I love you.” Perhaps even the first.Because “I love you” is a broad, vague message. It can mean all sorts of things, such as, I love the way you make me feel. I love what you do for me. I love...

Promotion or Prevention?

Promotion or Prevention?

Are you promotion focused or prevention focused? Promotion focused refers to seeing a carrot, desiring it, and going after it.  We recognize our need for nurturance and care. We admit our hunger as a human being. We lean in and intentionally execute by...

Emotional Regulation

Emotional Regulation

One of the three necessities for a healthy relationship is emotional regulation. When one is being triggered into an escalated state of fight, flight, freeze or fix, one is not capable of being relational. In fact, when one’s amygdala has taken over due to a...

The Sick Bus

The Sick Bus

One of the many reasons I love doing couples therapy is that I get to meet many “therapy virgins.” Folks that have never darkened the door of a therapist’s office because they never knew they needed to. And here they come. Begrudgingly, of course. Being dragged by a...

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