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To Rest is To Rust

To Rest is To Rust

“To rest is to rust.” Said the chicken scratch on a random piece of yellow paper. We found it on top of the microwave a few days after burying our father. We laughed. His barely legible handwritten platitude could not have come at a better time. He leaves us suddenly,...

Give Better Back

Give Better Back

When your partner hits a bad ball, hit a better ball back. His/her misstep in the world of relational excellence is not your free pass to indulge your inner two-year old that wants revenge and relief. Not if you care about the relationship, that is. Rather, recognize...

Holding Hands and Sticking Together

Holding Hands and Sticking Together

“Red Rover, Red Rover, Let Mary Ruth come over!” we screamed across the elementary school yard. The remaining girls in the line sighed relief. They were glad it wasn’t their name being invoked because our brutal reputation was solidly intact. This was long before...

Killing One Off

Killing One Off

I’ve lived five decades and never knew that the word “DECIDE” has the root ending from French -cide which derived from Latin -cida (“cutter, killer”), from casedo (“cut, kill”). Game changer. When we make a decision, we are engaging in the action of “cutting or...

Never Easy — But Worth It

Never Easy — But Worth It

As my journey as a psychotherapist took me more and more into the relationship world, I simultaneously became more of a geek. I have embraced my inner scientist. Show me the data. Collect it over time. Look for patterns, systems, trends that will give both...

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