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Three Ingredients for a Successful Relationship
It’s not sexy or romantic. You can’t place them in a box or wrap them in a silky bow. But they are the essential ingredients to making a partnership both work and thrive. A relationship for the ages. One you deserve. One that creates a legacy for generations to...
“I Thought We Were Fine”
“I thought we were fine,” she said last night in our couples’ session. He contacted me two days ago, wanting to get in to see me before I left for vacation. I had not heard a peep from them in six months. I thought they were fine too. I should have known better. ...
Be a Burden
“But, I don’t want to be a burden!” Haven’t I heard that too many times from one partner or another. Hell, I’ve even thought it myself. We don’t want to be a negative energy to someone else. We don’t want to overload, overwhelm or cause undue stress on our loved ones....
How Bad is Worse?
For better or worse. We promise that. Because life brings the inevitable up and down. Good and bad. Well and sick. It is our human experience. So, we plan ahead and expect that with changing tides, we will stick together and stick it out. And, love between partners is...
Learning to Talk
Do you spew or talk? There is a difference. A big difference. And, it will make a telltale difference in your relationship. A spewer does not internally metabolize feelings before expression. He or she vomits them into public air. Feelings spill out in reactions...
Learning to Sit
I know you know what I mean. You’ve had the experience where you open up some heaviness in your heart. You tell a story – your story – of your humanness. A heartache. A loss. A tragedy. A surreal experience that you’ve endured. And you watch the face contort of the...
Feelings, Schmeelings
“How does that make you feel?” is a dead giveaway. Therapist-speak. The joke at any party. Yes, it is true. It is not without purpose that we therapists focus on feelings. Not only are they the juice of our internal life but they...
Walls vs. Boundaries
Do you know the difference between a wall and a boundary? Walls are solid and rigid. They keep others out and keep you trapped inside. Boundaries are flexible, changeable, and removable. They can be opened or closed at any given time and with any particular...
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