Promotion or Prevention?

Promotion or Prevention?

Are you promotion focused or prevention focused? Promotion focused refers to seeing a carrot, desiring it, and going after it.  We recognize our need for nurturance and care. We admit our hunger as a human being. We lean in and intentionally execute by...
Emotional Regulation

Emotional Regulation

One of the three necessities for a healthy relationship is emotional regulation. When one is being triggered into an escalated state of fight, flight, freeze or fix, one is not capable of being relational. In fact, when one’s amygdala has taken over due to a...
Color Outside the Lines

Color Outside the Lines

As a psychotherapist, I resuscitate souls. I tear down the layers of self that some well-meaning adult worked so hard to construct: Be quiet. (Use your words. Talk loudly and often.) Color in the lines. (Take a risk. Be yourself.) Don’t cry. (Let it flow. The more...
Learning to Sit

Learning to Sit

I know you know what I mean. You’ve had the experience where you open up some heaviness in your heart. You tell a story – your story – of your humanness. A heartache. A loss. A tragedy. A surreal experience that you’ve endured. And you watch the face contort of the...
Feelings, Schmeelings

Feelings, Schmeelings

“How does that make you feel?” is a dead giveaway. Therapist-speak. The joke at any party. Yes, it is true. It is not without purpose that we therapists focus on feelings. Not only are they the juice of our internal life but they are the language of connection in an...