How to Find a Good Psychotherapist

How do you go about finding a therapist? I feel sorry for the lay human being. Really, I do. Finding a qualified psychotherapist is like picking a cereal in Aisle 16 of the grocery store. The choices are overwhelmingly too many. Furthermore, who has the time and the...

Five Minutes

It was only for five minutes. But it was the best five minutes of the whole day. In the middle of thawing the turkey (don’t you hate that part?) and making the stuffing, the phone rang. I thought it was a family member with the annual mandatory Thanksgiving greeting....

These Are My Days

Grey hair? Check. Less energy? Check. Memory loss? Check. Hot flashes? Creaky knees? Boring Saturday nights? Damn it. Check, check, check. Yes, I have all the signs of solid middle-age creeping into old age. But recently, I discovered yet another symptom of rounding...

Before, During and After

We are supposed to be the higher animal. The non-reactive ones. The ones that can rise above ourselves, pause and make rational adjustments for the betterment of self, others and our relationships. I know I forget this evolutionary perk at times. My monkey-brain takes...

Harmony, Disharmony, Repair, Repeat

“Mom, have we repaired yet?” I can hear my twelve-year-old daughter now. I think I have created a monster. Every relationship, albeit one with your partner, child, friend, coworker or neighbor, can be pinpointed at one of the three places – harmony, disharmony or...

The Not-So-Magic Kingdom

I know. Put me on the “bad mother” list. It took until my kids were teenagers for me to check the box for that mandatory childhood Walt Disney World vacation. It was the earliest I could manage the trip to Central Florida. Mickey and Minnie just had to be patient...