To Rest is To Rust

To Rest is To Rust

“To rest is to rust.” Said the chicken scratch on a random piece of yellow paper. We found it on top of the microwave a few days after burying our father. We laughed. His barely legible handwritten platitude could not have come at a better time. He leaves us suddenly,...
The Set-Up

The Set-Up

It’s largely about the set-up. Do not go into a difficult conversation with your partner without establishing a solid frame. This gives you the best chance to be heard and for the exchange to go well. 1. Ask if this is a good time. You don’t want to attempt an...
After-Burn (noun)

After-Burn (noun)

After-Burn (noun): the feeling one has in reaction to having displayed new, exciting healthy behaviors. Anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves. Might include such feelings as guilt, shame, fear. The emotional backlash of finally deciding to...

The Well-Shaped Heart

Children are born without psychological boundaries. And if they don’t learn some in their developmental years, they grow into adults with large bodies and still, no boundaries. Ugh … not so pretty.There are two types of boundaries: Protective and...