Practicing Relationships

Practicing Relationships

Do you ever wish you could practice relationships? Try new things where the stakes are low. Make mistakes, learn, come back again, make more mistakes and learn more. Stretch your comfort zone. Take in love, spit it out and be loved again anyway. Take a risk. Learn to...
Yours to Keep

Yours to Keep

“But, can I lose my gains?” sayeth multiple patients over my years as a psychotherapist. No, you can’t. You can’t unlearn what you know. You can’t turn off the lights to a dark room once you’ve found the switch. Growth is permanent. Now, can you distract, deny,...
Growing a Larger One

Growing a Larger One

You are filling your car with gas. Something you probably do many times a month, unless you are lucky enough to live in New Jersey where they still pump gasoline for you. You space out, watching the numbers climb too high too fast. Or, perhaps, you make googly eyes at...
Warm Regard

Warm Regard

Are you busy trying to prove your worth to someone? Are you anxiously working to try to make someone love you? Are you calculating all the reasons why someone should see you as a good person? I hate to rain on your parade (not really), but you are putting your...
Falling and Getting Back Up

Falling and Getting Back Up

Don’t measure your success in life by how infrequently you fall. We all fall. Many of us many times. Rather, measure your success by how often you get back up and how long it takes you to do so. Because, setbacks are inevitable, yet they are temporary. You can move...