Never Easy — But Worth It

Never Easy — But Worth It

As my journey as a psychotherapist took me more and more into the relationship world, I simultaneously became more of a geek. I have embraced my inner scientist. Show me the data. Collect it over time. Look for patterns, systems, trends that will give both...
Falling in Love

Falling in Love

One of the best definitions of psychotherapy I’ve ever heard is that we take the parts of someone that aren’t likable and we turn them into someone that’s more lovable. Bring me your shit and we shall turn water into wine. Sifting through the no...

Cleaning Closets

I am used to it by now.  Someone calls.  They want an appointment.  We meet.  I hear the tip, the tip of the iceberg, that moment that toppled them into seeking professional help.  I tell them who I am, what I can offer them and how I provide it.  They tell me that...

Article: Breaking Up the Party

No matter the modality – individual, group or couple – it is very common for someone to say, “I can’t take that in.  I don’t believe it to be true.”  The verbal expression of love being offered to him or her by me, his/her partner...

What’s Love Got to do With It?

I was talking with my friend the other day after one of his long days at work.  He was telling me about the hustle and bustle he endured and the resulting pain in his feet.  I expressed to him a tinge of guilt and then went on to admit that all I do all day is sip...