Rescuing Psychotherapy’s Image

It still boggles my mind that we – the advocates for emotional health – cannot rid ourselves from an umbrella of shame.   Deeply embedded stereotypes still persist in our field – ones of mental illness, Nurse Ratched, crazed hysteria and weakness...

Happiness is Over-Rated

When a patient begins treatment, it is quite common for him or her to tell me that their goal of working with me is to be happy. In the initial stages of our work, I let this slide … for who am I to rain on their fantastical parade? Delusion certainly has a...

Where is the Intimacy?

It had been way too long. My friend and I were past due a sit-down time to catch-up and remind each other of why we continued to want to stay connected in each other’s life. We picked the date and the time and of course, the usual place – a Starbucks...

Moving From Protection to Connection

Psychological theory speaks of two major categories of threat to the self: abandonment and annihilation. Abandonment refers to my inability to stand alone, individuated and solid within my own ego boundaries. Thus, because I am dependent on others to hold my esteem...

The Cost of Love

Wouldn’t you know it but my kids have introduced me to modern day rock-n-roll. Do they even call it that anymore?   Pop music would be the correct term, I am guessing.   Yes, I had my day – loud music, Walkmans (remember those?) and driving my parents...