Size Matters

Size Matters

In teaching emotional skills, whether it be tactical, emotional, or experiential, I must confess I can be overzealous. I’m so focused on either working someone’s relational muscle or getting excited when I witness progress, that I often forget to mention...
Promotion or Prevention?

Promotion or Prevention?

Are you promotion focused or prevention focused? Promotion focused refers to seeing a carrot, desiring it, and going after it.  We recognize our need for nurturance and care. We admit our hunger as a human being. We lean in and intentionally execute by...
Me Too!

Me Too!

“Me too!” my curly-haired daughter and I yelled in unison while reading the silly cardboard book we picked up at the elementary school book sale. It was too fun not to scream it loudly. Besides, we wanted to make her brother laugh across the hall. It was our nightly...
Color Outside the Lines

Color Outside the Lines

As a psychotherapist, I resuscitate souls. I tear down the layers of self that some well-meaning adult worked so hard to construct: Be quiet. (Use your words. Talk loudly and often.) Color in the lines. (Take a risk. Be yourself.) Don’t cry. (Let it flow. The more...
Learning to Sit

Learning to Sit

I know you know what I mean. You’ve had the experience where you open up some heaviness in your heart. You tell a story – your story – of your humanness. A heartache. A loss. A tragedy. A surreal experience that you’ve endured. And you watch the face contort of the...