The Sick Bus

The Sick Bus

One of the many reasons I love doing couples therapy is that I get to meet many “therapy virgins.” Folks that have never darkened the door of a therapist’s office because they never knew they needed to. And here they come. Begrudgingly, of course. Being dragged by a...
Extending Beyond Okay

Extending Beyond Okay

“You doing okay?” How many times do we hear that? How many times do we ask that? The only time that question is appropriate is in the service industry. Your wait staff at your favorite restaurant can ask that. The flight attendant on a long flight (no longer a...
Me Too!

Me Too!

“Me too!” my curly-haired daughter and I yelled in unison while reading the silly cardboard book we picked up at the elementary school book sale. It was too fun not to scream it loudly. Besides, we wanted to make her brother laugh across the hall. It was our nightly...
Find the Time

Find the Time

“When you coming home, Dad? I don’t know when. But we’ll get together then, Dad. I know we’ll have a good time then.” – Cat’s in the Cradle, Song by Harry Chapin Time – our most precious commodity. Brene Brown goes so far as to say that love is spelled t-i-m-e....
70/20/10

70/20/10

“But she might never change?” said the downtrodden husband on my new white couch.   I could feel his heart break from the required six feet across the room. I so wish I had better news for him. “70/20/10,” I responded.   Understandably, he gave me a look...
The Full-Range Marriage

The Full-Range Marriage

A “happy marriage” is a capitalistic concept. It sells expensive engagement rings and throws lavish weddings. But it sets up a bright-eyed couple for a disappointing and harsh fall that many never rebound. Rather, at best, marriage is secure and satisfying. The...