Talk About It

Talk About It

Inevitably, when working with couples, I end up assisting parents with their children. Besides, that’s what we relational life therapists espouse – evolving the emotional and relational health in the generational line. On two recent occasions, I reminded disheartened...
Ten Miles of Hell

Ten Miles of Hell

I hate that picture. Or, I should say, I hated it. It is now one of my most prized possessions. The framed moment was the first thing I grabbed when my father’s life suddenly ended back in September of 1987. I now look lovingly at it as it sits atop my desk. I still...
Gravy for Parents

Gravy for Parents

The alarm blared at 5 AM. My body, more than my mind, resisted the start of a new day. How I wanted to ignore reality and slip back into my down-covered dreamworld. But the disciplined part of me wouldn’t allow such. Instead, as has become the habit of most folks, the...
Finding Mother

Finding Mother

The little bird was so desperate. “Are you my mother?” it asked the cow and the steam shovel. It would have probably asked anyone or anything that crossed its path. It needed to find a home. Let’s face it … we all want to be mothered, regardless of our age. Our heart...
Not for the Faint of Heart

Not for the Faint of Heart

I got hit in the gut last night. Don’t you hate that? You are going along having a perfectly fine day, singing that stupid song stuck in your head, when, BAM! Reality decides that now, right god-damned now, is the time to teach (or re-teach) you that lesson. My almost...