Ginger's Blog
Happiness is Over-Rated
When a patient begins treatment, it is quite common for him or her to tell me that their goal of working with me is to be happy. In the initial stages of our work, I let this slide ... for who am I to rain on their fantastical parade? Delusion certainly has a...
Where is the Intimacy?
It had been way too long. My friend and I were past due a sit-down time to catch-up and remind each other of why we continued to want to stay connected in each other's life. We picked the date and the time and of course, the usual place - a Starbucks somewhere between...
Moving From Protection to Connection
Psychological theory speaks of two major categories of threat to the self: abandonment and annihilation. Abandonment refers to my inability to stand alone, individuated and solid within my own ego boundaries. Thus, because I am dependent on others to hold my esteem...
The Cost of Love
Wouldn't you know it but my kids have introduced me to modern day rock-n-roll. Do they even call it that anymore? Pop music would be the correct term, I am guessing. Yes, I had my day - loud music, Walkmans (remember those?) and driving my parents crazy with that...
Stunned
I was driving the car, taking my kids to play with their out-of-town cousins for the morning. My almost thirteen-year-old son says out of the blue, "Mom, I am not sure what I am feeling. It is more than happy." I was stunned. Did I need my ears checked? You mean...
The Well-Shaped Heart
Children are born without psychological boundaries. And if they don't learn some in their developmental years, they grow into adults with large bodies and still, no boundaries. Ugh ... not so pretty.There are two types of boundaries: Protective and Containing.A...
Step by Step
It is hard to believe that 30 years have passed. I was a spry young thing. The mysterious underdog. Everyone worried if I ate enough. And why on earth would I be up at 7 a.m. on a Saturday morning, dressed and out the door regardless of the weather? Sometimes, I...
Seven Ways to Improve Your Relationships
Consider the "We." Every relationship has three parties involved - the you, the me and the shared space of the "WE." However, we are not inclined to think this way. In a winner take all philosophy, the relationship becomes about the "me" whereby our partner submits...
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