Where is the Intimacy?

It had been way too long. My friend and I were past due a sit-down time to catch-up and remind each other of why we continued to want to stay connected in each other’s life. We picked the date and the time and of course, the usual place – a Starbucks...

Moving From Protection to Connection

Psychological theory speaks of two major categories of threat to the self: abandonment and annihilation. Abandonment refers to my inability to stand alone, individuated and solid within my own ego boundaries. Thus, because I am dependent on others to hold my esteem...

The Cost of Love

Wouldn’t you know it but my kids have introduced me to modern day rock-n-roll. Do they even call it that anymore?   Pop music would be the correct term, I am guessing.   Yes, I had my day – loud music, Walkmans (remember those?) and driving my parents...

Stunned

I was driving the car, taking my kids to play with their out-of-town cousins for the morning.  My almost thirteen-year-old son says out of the blue, “Mom, I am not sure what I am feeling.  It is more than happy.”  I was stunned.  Did I need my ears...

The Well-Shaped Heart

Children are born without psychological boundaries. And if they don’t learn some in their developmental years, they grow into adults with large bodies and still, no boundaries. Ugh … not so pretty.There are two types of boundaries: Protective and...

Step by Step

It is hard to believe that 30 years have passed.  I was a spry young thing.  The mysterious underdog.  Everyone worried if I ate enough.  And why on earth would I be up at 7 a.m. on a Saturday morning, dressed and out the door regardless of the weather?  Sometimes, I...