Long-Term Love

Long-Term Love

“How do we know when it is going to work?” she asked, the healing-hearted woman in a hurting couple. “You don’t,” I said truthfully and painfully, so wishing I had a different answer. A better answer. A reassuring answer. Because, it’s a daily decision to invest in a...
Perfect Schmerfect

Perfect Schmerfect

“But, I had a perfect childhood,” I hear for the thousandth time. Yet, right before me – in full-blown technicolor – are the obvious behavioral and emotional signs that something went awry. Show me the thumbprint. I guarantee you there was a thumb. “That’s...
Red, White and Blues

Red, White and Blues

I wish I could tell you I was standing in a crowded parade line. Waving my red, white and blues. Enjoying every bite of a bad hot dog while singing patriotic songs off-key, of course. But, alas, I am not. Rather, than shouting prideful hip-hip-hoorays at being a lucky...
Persistent Beauty

Persistent Beauty

The crocuses are popping up all over Washington. I’m not sure what they are thinking given that it is still hat-and-glove weather here in our nation’s capital. I can hear them – “Really, we are on now? Can’t we sleep a little longer till the ground is softer and the...

How to Find a Good Psychotherapist

How do you go about finding a therapist? I feel sorry for the lay human being. Really, I do. Finding a qualified psychotherapist is like picking a cereal in Aisle 16 of the grocery store. The choices are overwhelmingly too many. Furthermore, who has the time and the...

Five Minutes

It was only for five minutes. But it was the best five minutes of the whole day. In the middle of thawing the turkey (don’t you hate that part?) and making the stuffing, the phone rang. I thought it was a family member with the annual mandatory Thanksgiving greeting....