Remember, feelings in the moment coexist with a distinct yet chronic emotional state.
In plain English, I can feel hate toward my husband or my child in a given moment. [If you are brave enough to admit such is true!] Those are temporary, fleeting feelings that come with full-range emotional living. And, while feeling that immediate hatred, I know deep down that I love them both to the moon and back. Party trick: I can love and hate simultaneously.
However, it’s when those pesky temporary feelings go unidentified and unrepaired that they creep into the foundation of our attachment of love. That small crack widens over time into an immense gulf that feels permanent and beyond reconstruction. Our once loving bond is in danger.
I’m here to help.
I can give you once more chance.