Frontwards, not backwards. Love yourself so that you pick a partner that can love you back.
And, it’s more complicated than that.
Remember, it takes people to heal us and people to hurt us. So, get yourself around healing people that will help you internalize their love as to form that loving relationship with yourself. Then, pick that partner. Success!
You gotta get those loving people in your life. Find them. Treasure them. Make consistent contact with them. Soak up their emotional nutrition. That’s the ticket for heart growth.
Then, when you choose your primary partner, you are choosing from a place of self-respect and esteem, not deficit and wish.
Frontwards … better, easier, fewer mistakes, best odds for a successful outcome.
For the rise of your life …