“I see one up ahead. Thank God, we’re not lost. We’re still on the right trail.”

I often use my blue marker metaphor with couples and individuals. You know. Those painted blue lines on random trees that offer relieving reassurance that you are not lost in the middle of the woods. That even though you feel directionless, as if you are walking in circles going nowhere, you indeed are still on the path going forward. Hope remains alive.

Those blue markers can be lifesavers. Particularly, as you walk deeper into the unknown. Whether to create a new marriage, one never ventured, with no specific blueprint. Or, to evolve into a deeper, souped up you. All signs that point to progress and positive change are welcome.

Furthermore, the blue paint might be all we are going to get. Yes, we might wish to be at the end of the journey. Or at least have a guarantee that we will get there in one piece. But, the life we get to live doesn’t offer a known outcome. We are living in the middle of a thick-treed now.

So, give up the end game and keep searching for painted blue signs of momentum and passage. That’s how you will know you are on the right course.