Say Doc, How Do I Know When I Am Done?

“So, Doc. How will I know when I am done here?” the frequently asked million-dollar question goes. I feel my body tighten, wondering if this patient is going to be one of “those.” One that wants to fire me before hiring me. One that wants some short-cut, clear path of...

Question and Answer

Thank you for the question: How do I figure out what the thing is for me that is holding me back from intimacy and deeper relationships and how to start working on that thing? Dear Reader – I offer two speculations of what might be holding you back from intimacy...

Closing the Hatch

I fly so often these days, I could easily get a job as an airline flight attendant. I got the standard verbiage down. “The front hatch is closed. We are ready for take-off.  Seatbelts need to be fastened. Tray tables in their upright and locked position. We are...

Life as Teacher

I am writing this at 35,000 feet. It’s dark out the window portal, not that I could tell where I am anyway. One farm blends into another. I imagine I am somewhere between Indiana and Iowa, as I cross the country to visit my son in boarding school. Two days of travel...

New You, Becoming a Better You

New Year, New You. I hate that phrase. Because I hate that idea. Makes it sound like something is wrong with me. Like I need some kind of “new me.” Screw that. I want to have – and appreciate – the old me. The one that climbed out of a difficult childhood and a more...