Ginger's Blog
What is Your Trigger?
What is your biggest trigger? You know. The event, incident, button that when pushed, your insides explode. You lose all sense of rationality. Your grounded adult self flies out the window like a large pink gum wad onto the passing highway. Your regressed inner child...
Definition Day: Shame vs. Toxic Shame
Definition Day: Guilt: The painful feeling of regret and responsibility for one’s actions. I did/did not do something wrong. I shouldn’t have eaten the whole box of cookies. I should have gone to see my grandmother before she died. Guilt motivates me toward action. I...
Losing My Mama-Mama
I lost my mama this week. Not my mama. But my mama-mama. The woman that raised me. The one that shielded me. The one that fried chicken in Crisco (with milk gravy on the side) and made strawberry cake for my birthday. The one that hugged me every morning, so tightly...
Growing Older While Growing Bigger
I think it was a Wednesday morning. My new, sweet Zen-like alarm app decided I needed to get out of bed. As I turned over to tell it to shut-the-hell-up, my stiffened knee refused to straighten. “Hmm.” I wondered, refusing to let a small bout of physical pain stop me....
Accountability vs. Blame
“Is this the part where we blame the parents?” says one wise-ass patient, always trying – and needing – to predict and control the process. Yes, it is stereotypical and it is true. The tricky but essential part of healing – where we pass it back to no longer carry it...
Just Be Willing
Maybe it’s me. Maybe it’s Washington DC. But I get many competent professional (and gorgeous) single women in my office trying to navigate and succeed at the dating game. I must say, I am glad to not be in their shoes. It’s a jungle out there. When asked, or when I...
We’re All Chocolates in a Box
Humans are like chocolates in a gold shiny Godiva box. There is the outside showing - our appearance in created grandeur. And then there is the inside – whatever lies deep in the middle of our bonbon. For some, what you see is what you get. Be it plain, delicious or...
Self-Compassion Over Self-Esteem
The concept of self-esteem is so elusive. What does it mean? How do we measure it? Do we have enough? Can we have too much? Should everyone get a trophy and does that enhance or diminish authentic esteem? Hell, if I know. I prefer the term - self-compassion. And make...
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