Be a Burden

Be a Burden

“But, I don’t want to be a burden!” Haven’t I heard that too many times from one partner or another. Hell, I’ve even thought it myself. We don’t want to be a negative energy to someone else. We don’t want to overload, overwhelm or cause undue stress on our loved ones....
How Bad is Worse?

How Bad is Worse?

For better or worse. We promise that. Because life brings the inevitable up and down. Good and bad. Well and sick. It is our human experience. So, we plan ahead and expect that with changing tides, we will stick together and stick it out. And, love between partners is...
Learning to Talk

Learning to Talk

Do you spew or talk? There is a difference. A big difference. And, it will make a telltale difference in your relationship. A spewer does not internally metabolize feelings before expression. He or she vomits them into public air. Feelings spill out in reactions...
Feelings, Schmeelings

Feelings, Schmeelings

“How does that make you feel?” is a dead giveaway. Therapist-speak. The joke at any party. Yes, it is true. It is not without purpose that we therapists focus on feelings. Not only are they the juice of our internal life but they are the language of connection in an...