Holding Both the Good and the Bad

Holding Both the Good and the Bad

You could feel the tension in the room. The unprocessed negative emotion, like a trough of hardening concrete, sat between them on my green couch. As they both looked at me with pleading and desperate eyes to “fix this,” she gently put her hand on his leg. I slowed to...
Go Around Again

Go Around Again

Many of you know that I ran track in high school. The mile run was my specialty. That’s four laps around for you sports novices. After the many logged hours of pre-race training, all that was needed was a strategy as to pace and take over and then the sheer will to...
Long-Term Love

Long-Term Love

“How do we know when it is going to work?” she asked, the healing-hearted woman in a hurting couple. “You don’t,” I said truthfully and painfully, so wishing I had a different answer. A better answer. A reassuring answer. Because, it’s a daily decision to invest in a...

Question and Answer

Thank you for the question: How do I figure out what the thing is for me that is holding me back from intimacy and deeper relationships and how to start working on that thing? Dear Reader – I offer two speculations of what might be holding you back from intimacy...