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What are you avoiding?
What are you avoiding? Before my father died, we had a running joke. “Don’t be a wimp!” he’d write in his barely-legible handwriting, when writing letters was still a thing. The reminder back and forth between us was unnecessary. He knew he had raised me to be just...
Life in a Bag
She must have seen my fidgeting. I didn’t even have to ask. She reached into her large, shiny white patent-leather purse and pulled out a box of brand-new crayons and a full-sized coloring book. My young self was instantly rescued from the boring Sunday morning...
The Set-Up
It’s largely about the set-up. Do not go into a difficult conversation with your partner without establishing a solid frame. This gives you the best chance to be heard and for the exchange to go well. 1. Ask if this is a good time. You don’t want to attempt an...
Warm Regard
Are you busy trying to prove your worth to someone? Are you anxiously working to try to make someone love you? Are you calculating all the reasons why someone should see you as a good person? I hate to rain on your parade (not really), but you are putting your...
To Confront… or Not?
In the unfolding of psychological story, there is an intersection I have been to many times with patients … do I, now as an adult, confront the one that hurt me as a child? Do I dare break the code of silence and say aloud what happened? This dilemma is complex and...
Becoming Mindful
Psychoanalysis makes a happy marriage with Buddhism in that both encourage the practice of mindfulness. What is mindfulness? Mindfulness (noun): the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something. a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the...
Joining an Emotional Gym
Turn on the air conditioning. Are we done yet? I can’t go there today. This work is exhausting. Sounds like comments overheard at the gym. Sweat dripping, tormented faces, exhausted bodies. Yet, it’s the same scene in my office - I am running an emotional gym. Getting...
Sobering Suicide
We lost another yesterday. To suicide, that is. Her stores and handbags have now outlived her. Because, for some hidden and unknown reason, she decided to no longer play. Sometimes, we hear tragedy in the news, and it stings temporarily and then quickly fades. And...
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