Grabbing the Moment

Grabbing the Moment

I knew it was a bit dangerous and hence, stupid. Setting an alarm on vacation. Heading to the mountain solo at daybreak. They do warn you in full font size – “You are entering a natural habitat for large wildlife – bears, elk and moose. Carry bear spray.” Of...
Yours to Keep

Yours to Keep

“But, can I lose my gains?” sayeth multiple patients over my years as a psychotherapist. No, you can’t. You can’t unlearn what you know. You can’t turn off the lights to a dark room once you’ve found the switch. Growth is permanent. Now, can you distract, deny,...
Stay in Your Lane

Stay in Your Lane

I am not a cyclist. Unless, of course, you count those unsightly occasional my dying in the back row of a Soul Cycle class that my daughter has convinced me to attend as “mother-daughter time.” Nope. Walking, swimming and yoga are more my taste. But, from the cyclists...
Empathy

Empathy

Me too. Me too. No, it’s not about you right now. It’s about the emotional experience of the person sitting across from you. The one you claim to love and care about. But, I can relate. Isn’t that empathy? Yes and no. When you emotionally connect with another person,...
How Do You Attract Attention?

How Do You Attract Attention?

As a baby, you didn’t have to try. You were probably so damn cute that you got your share of notice. Or, you instinctively let the world know that you needed to be paid attention to. Or, at a minimum, your caretakers were around enough that you got your share because...