It’s Ok to Not Be Ok

It’s Ok to Not Be Ok

Sometimes being strong means not being strong. Not only is it okay to “fall apart,” but it takes courage to be fully human – rather than continue the oh-so false façade of Superman or Superwoman. True emotional muscle and might are needed to allow one’s self to...
Emotional Literacy

Emotional Literacy

Those of you that are familiar at all with my work know that I am committed to the development of emotional literacy in my patients. My secret-not-so-secret mission is to help every person that walks into my office leave me with greater access, vocabulary and maneuver...
Throw Caution to the Wind

Throw Caution to the Wind

Anyone see Nathan Chen, the US figure skater last night in the Olympics? If you missed it, find the footage. But more importantly, see his story. And more importantly than that, model his character. He fucked up his short program. Royally. He fell once, maybe twice,...
Adaptive Capacities

Adaptive Capacities

How’s your supply of adaptive capacities? Your adaptive capacities make-up your resource pile of coping skills. All those people, behaviors and action items that restore you. Ground you. Allow you to keep going when the demands of life are telling you to pack it in...
Wantless and Needless

Wantless and Needless

Wantless and Needless.* Definition: (noun or adjective) A brilliant psychological adaption whereby a child learns to ignore his or her human needs, creating a false internal belief that he or she no longer has them. This protective move keeps a child from either the...
Embracing the Depressive Position

Embracing the Depressive Position

Embracing the depressive position. So fancy for a snowy Wednesday. And what the hell does it mean? It means that if we aren’t willing to feel sad, we end up feeling empty. Allow me to explain. Let’s say, I am hungry, and I have three shiny fruits in front of me – an...