Yours to Keep

Yours to Keep

“But, can I lose my gains?” sayeth multiple patients over my years as a psychotherapist. No, you can’t. You can’t unlearn what you know. You can’t turn off the lights to a dark room once you’ve found the switch. Growth is permanent. Now, can you distract, deny,...

Loving the Life You Have

I swear it happens weekly. I open my mouth and some clerk or new patient or person on the street asks me where I am from. I feel like a transplant from a foreign land.  Even though I left decades ago and have successfully eradicated the “ya’lls” and...

It Was There All Along

One of my favorite children’s stories is the Wizard of Oz.  As a story, it is delightful but as a metaphor, it is profound. We all are walking that yellow brick road … trying to get what we are missing, trying to get back home. Ideally, this journey is...