Go Deeper

Go Deeper

In our age of drive-by contact, go deeper. Emotionally, authentic connection is still the most exciting and satisfying meal in town. It offers juicy nourishment to counteract the stagnation in superficiality. Go for substance and know how to generate it: 1. Create...
Relational vs. Intimate

Relational vs. Intimate

Is being relational the same thing as being intimate? Someone asked this great question in my training group this week. First off, you do know me enough by now to know that being intimate is not about sex. Sex is sex. Intimacy is about emotional connection. Being...
The Horse Blinders

The Horse Blinders

“Well, I would behave better if he did,” says the partner, justifying her poor relational move. Yeah, yeah, yeah. If only it were that easy. But, love ain’t easy. If we are going to stay in the game long-term, we must show up with generosity, regardless of what...
The Set-Up

The Set-Up

It’s largely about the set-up. Do not go into a difficult conversation with your partner without establishing a solid frame. This gives you the best chance to be heard and for the exchange to go well. 1. Ask if this is a good time. You don’t want to attempt an...