Ginger's Blog
Time in an Hourglass
It was one long conversation. We just moved locations. From morning coffee to walks on the beach to lunch, back to the beach, to wine on the tower during sunset, to dinner of local seafood. I think we covered the gamut with little care in the world as to the time of...
Go Deeper
In our age of drive-by contact, go deeper. Emotionally, authentic connection is still the most exciting and satisfying meal in town. It offers juicy nourishment to counteract the stagnation in superficiality. Go for substance and know how to generate it: 1. Create...
Falling in Love
One of the best definitions of psychotherapy I've ever heard is that we take the parts of someone that aren't likable and we turn them into someone that's more lovable. Bring me your shit and we shall turn water into wine. Sifting through the no longer needed,...
Ten Miles of Hell
I hate that picture. Or, I should say, I hated it. It is now one of my most prized possessions. The framed moment was the first thing I grabbed when my father’s life suddenly ended back in September of 1987. I now look lovingly at it as it sits atop my desk. I still...
Do You Have an Upper Limit Problem?
Do you know that we have an “internal thermostat” that unconsciously tracks the amount of goodness in our lives? It’s as of our nervous system can only tolerate so much love and positive energy before it blows. When it reaches its limit, it signals us to stop the flow...
True Intimacy
... Without sacrificing one for the other. For if I hide me, then at best I am codependent. At worst, I am suicidal - metaphorically - meaning that I am nowhere to be found in my relationship. If it's all about me and I don't give a shit about you, well ... that's a...
Mow Your Own Lawn
Stop looking at your neighbor's yard. You have your own damn lawn to mow. If you keep peering over the fence, you will not only neglect your own grass, but you will make up in your head that they have something you don't. That their grass doesn't grow weeds. That they...
Soft on the Inside
You know those candies that surprise you? You bite in with full expectation of what you are going to get, and then, shock. What you saw on the outside is not what you got on the inside. That hard shell was hiding a soft, gooey interior. This candy is complex! You know...
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