Killing One Off

Killing One Off

I’ve lived five decades and never knew that the word “DECIDE” has the root ending from French -cide which derived from Latin -cida (“cutter, killer”), from casedo (“cut, kill”). Game changer. When we make a decision, we are engaging in the action of “cutting or...
Never Easy — But Worth It

Never Easy — But Worth It

As my journey as a psychotherapist took me more and more into the relationship world, I simultaneously became more of a geek. I have embraced my inner scientist. Show me the data. Collect it over time. Look for patterns, systems, trends that will give both...
Practicing Relationships

Practicing Relationships

Do you ever wish you could practice relationships? Try new things where the stakes are low. Make mistakes, learn, come back again, make more mistakes and learn more. Stretch your comfort zone. Take in love, spit it out and be loved again anyway. Take a risk. Learn to...
Empathy

Empathy

Me too. Me too. No, it’s not about you right now. It’s about the emotional experience of the person sitting across from you. The one you claim to love and care about. But, I can relate. Isn’t that empathy? Yes and no. When you emotionally connect with another person,...
Time in an Hourglass

Time in an Hourglass

It was one long conversation. We just moved locations. From morning coffee to walks on the beach to lunch, back to the beach, to wine on the tower during sunset, to dinner of local seafood. I think we covered the gamut with little care in the world as to the time of...